The Uncomfortable Gravity

Have you ever felt repeatedly pulled toward something you know is wrong for you? Maybe it is a relationship, a type of boss, or an environment you keep finding yourself in. This is the comfortable gravity of your past.

We need to trace the source code of our patterns. By source code, I mean the early experiences and repeated patterns that trained our nervous system on what "love" and "safety" look like. Our nervous system gravitates toward what is familiar. 🤓

Chase Hughes explains it perfectly:

If it feels familiar, it feels safe.

If it feels safe, it becomes attractive.

Once it's attractive, it becomes repeated.

Familiar might be that bully you encountered growing up, that traumatic experience with a teacher, or that toxic family member. Familiar does not mean it is right. It just means our nervous system normalized it.

Sometimes what is best for us feels wrong, incomplete, or uncomfortable at first. If something is good for you and it feels different from your source code, enjoy the discomfort. It will not last. As you create new coding, the old patterns lose their pull and become what you now repel. 🌟

Do not recycle the past. Forgive it. Learn from it. Build the code that supports the best version of you.

❓ Take a moment to ask yourself: are you holding on to people and patterns to heal old pain, or to create new joy?

And if it’s mostly about old pain, what new code do you need to write? Trace the source code. Rewrite it. Love should not come with conditions.

Feel safe, well, and loved, my friends. Rewrite your code to create a new normal of peace, joy, and security. Create a new, uncomfortable gravity that attracts what you truly want in life. ✨

✅ LOVE: Recode what love feels like: unconditional, not submissive or performative.

✅ SERVICE: Surround yourself with people and environments that nurture your growth.

✅ ACTION: Take one small action this week that reflects your new code.

▶️ (Chase Hughes video reference) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySqH_7VVdos&list=PLxm4bPXTQ4dMIfKkcFy01BePGzryKnxxI&index=62

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